By unlocking what keeps us in an unhealthy cycle we can better care for ourselves and not let the past dictate our lives.
The thought of opening up to someone and revealing the things that you are either trying to make sense of or having difficulty managing can be daunting, especially when you don’t know what to expect in therapy or from a new therapist.
It makes sense that one could feel that way. It is a new dynamic that will slowly unfold and become a unique relationship where the entire focus is on rebuilding and/or restrengthening your sense of self. Whether you are looking to recover from emotional pain, managing emotions/thoughts that are causing distress or trying to make sense of things that have happened or how you are currently experiencing life - your sense of self is being challenged.
Creating a space for someone to feel supported and heard is my first priority. The most important aspect of a therapeutic relationship is the bond between client and therapist. When you truly feel comfortable and understood by your therapist, therapy can have the space to thrive.
Curiosity, Consistency & Society
We have to keep in mind how the society we live under affects how we relate to ourselves and others. The current system we are ruled by teaches us that we must brush off pain and get back to being a productive member of society. It teaches us that it is weak to ask for help or that it is wrong of you to even need help. It is not uncommon to feel as though you are broken or a problem that needs to be fixed. But viewing yourself in this manner may be contributing to the emotional/mental discomfort or pain you are experiencing.
If you choose to work with me, we will explore how society impacts you and how it may be contributing to what you are going through. We will also look into what you have lived through and how those experiences have shaped you. This is not about blaming the past or society - it is about being curious of how you have been affected, how you have reacted and why.
Curiosity is of utmost importance; judgment will only narrow your mind and perspective, whereas curiosity can expand how you see things and allow for deeper understanding of the self. When we are able to fully comprehend what has happened and how it has influenced your thoughts, behaviors, decisions, feelings etc., then growth can happen.
Finally, therapy is a process so it takes time, commitment and diligence. Consistently showing up for session and being curious about oneself in between sessions can create a strong base to build off of and cultivate a whole and stronger self.